Do you remember what you were like at age 10? It’s right before our hormones kick in and societal expectations begin to manipulate our thinking. I remember when I was 10. I was outgoing, outspoken, with empathy and support for those in need. This got me thinking about becoming who we are authentically at a young age. We begin the process of “becoming” and then something happens along the way. Why?
I want you to take a moment now to picture yourself at age 10: What were your hobbies? What were you thinking? What stands out? I will share a very quick story with you about me when I was 10. It had a profound effect on the shape of my thinking, moving forward in my life. I had a friend, Kit Wilcox (not her real name) and she lived in a home that was not filled with love and nurturing. She had a step-mother who was quite beautiful. When you saw Kit’s step-mother and step-sister in the community, both of them were always dressed in beautiful clothes. However, Kit was not allowed these luxuries. Kit wore old, outdated and tattered dresses and old scuffed shoes to school every day. She was embarrassed and it affected the outcome of her day.
One day, I got this big idea that I would bring clothes in a bag each day to school and Kit would change quickly, before school started every morning and then again at the end of the school day, before she climbed on the bus to go home. Kit loved the idea and we pulled this off for what seemed like a long time (probably a week or two now that I reflect on it) and then we got caught. Kit missed the bus one day because she was changing clothes in the bathroom and she finally admitted to her step-mother why she missed the bus. Needless to say, we were all in the principal’s office the next morning. There was a rule that you could not share or exchange clothes with other children at school.